Episode 13: Raising Trans Kids: A Conversation with Rebecca Minor Part 1
What if grief isn’t the enemy - but where love can learn to grow?
Episode Overview:
In part one of this conversation, Jess and Rebecca Minor discuss Rebecca's new book, Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren't Expecting This. Together, they explore the range of emotions that can creep up when your child comes out as trans, and how these emotions often hint at something about the parent, not the child themself.
Together, we discuss:
✨ The grief parents don’t always feel allowed to name
✨ What to do with your sadness before it reaches your child
✨ How trans joy can be misread as loss by the people who love us
✨ Why “I just need time” can land like rejection
✨ Learning to hold the and - supporting your kid while honoring your own process
About the Guest
Rebecca Minor, LICSW, is a queer clinician, consultant, and educator specializing in the intersection of trauma, gender, and sexuality. As a gender specialist, Rebecca partners with trans and gender nonconforming youth through their journey of becoming and serves as a guide to their parents in affirming it. Her internationally recognized consulting and parent coaching work supports organizations, schools, and businesses in building cultural responsiveness and inclusivity. Rebecca is an adjunct faculty member and lecturer at Boston University School of Social Work, and the author of the forthcoming book Raising Trans Kids: What To Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This (Row House, 2025).
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Transcript
About your host:
Jess Romeo is a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, clinical social worker, mentor, and educator with a passion for making gender-affirming care more accessible, inclusive, and informed.
With years of experience seeing patients, training healthcare providers, and being queer & trans, Jess brings a nuanced, compassionate, and engaging voice to conversations about gender identity and social justice.
Through this podcast, Jess cultivates a curious and brave space to explore the realities, challenges, and triumphs of our lives—helping providers, allies, and community members reflect, deepen their knowledge, and take meaningful action.